You can bet if you choose to stay with an abusive partner that you'll be blamed for everything that goes wrong in their lives. An abusive lover will never accept personal blame for anything. They are masters at turning things around on their spouses so they never assume any guilt.
This can lead you to feel like you're crazy - you don't feel that you can trust your own memories of an event or situation because he/she has twisted things up so much - and you're constantly on edge because you don't want to be at the receiving end of his/her anger.
If you're living with someone who does this, please know that there is help for you to break away from this toxic relationship!